We may love the wrong person

Never cry over a person who is not crying over you.
~ Perpetua Herreria
The right person knows all about our mistakes and loves and
accepts us just the way we are. ~ Marie Buck
Don’t be naïve. If you have to change who you are to fit his/
her standards, then he or she is not worth it. ~ Michael
Murphy
Know what you want and don’t want in a person. Move on
past that old relationship/person, to allow the new
relationship to prosper and be happy with ourselves first.
~ Joy Chapman
God will provide the right person for everyone so nobody has
to run and look hard but love will come to you. ~ Linda Fisher
Sometimes the right person is ourselves. But if we loose
sight of that, we allow the wrong ones make us cry because
we believed they wanted us for who we were, when in reality,
all we ever were was a toy to manipulate, then throw away
when the game got old. If they make someone else cry, most
likely they’ll do it you too. Know who you can trust with your
heart. Most likely it will always have been “you” the whole
time. ~ Ross Kennemore

Meaningful quotes

Tears will not come when you miss a person,

it comes when you don’t want to miss a person….just feel it!!!

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The heart feels light when someone is in it,

but it feels very heavy when someone leaves it.

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A heart dies when it is not able to share its feelings, 

but a heart kills itself when another heart doesn’t understands its feelings….

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Loving someone doesn’t need a reason,

If u can explain why you love someone it’s called ‘like’. 

If you can’t explain it’s simply called ‘LOVE’.

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It’s very easy to say you are ‘busy’ when someone needs you but,

its very difficult to hear ‘busy’ when you need someone...

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Not all fingers are same in length, 

but when they bend all stand equal….

(Life become easy when we bend and adjust to all situations)…

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»If silence is meant to be the best for all situations…

then why do we all get so hurt when people don’t talk to us??

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One of the very true & greatest illusions of life is that:

“We always believe there is more time in tomorrow than today”.

My thought on above - we forget to b realise that today was yesterday's tomorrow.
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Transforming suffering into peace

Transform Suffering Into Peace

 

   Most of us do experience life as suffering. In situations related to a significant loss – of a loved one, a precious relationship, or a job – our suffering seems irreparable. However, suffering and peace are two sides of the same coin; a thin line separates the two. With greater awareness, understanding, and compassion, it is indeed possible to transform our agony into solace; our restlessness into stillness; and our adversity into a blessing. 
   The biggest cause of suffering is our attachments. Disappointment with setbacks at work is a result of our attachment to the expectations of specific material gains from our efforts; anxiety about our children’s future is an outcome of our attachment with an idealised version of ourselves that we wish our children to grow up into; fear of illness emanates from our attachment to our physical body. 
   Here are three keys to transforming suffering into peace. It starts with realising that happiness is a conscious choice. While bouts of suffering can be paralysing, we always have the choice within us to transform it, based on how we respond to it. Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh says, “The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.” 
   A job loss can be perceived as a significant personal failure or we can relate to it as an integral part of work life and an opportunity to reflect, retool and engage in something more meaningful. Research suggests that most people regain their original level of happiness after one year of job loss (people report similar results after one year of losing a loved one); eventually, many even regard the job loss to be the best thing that ever happened to them. 
   Secondly, developing higher awareness offers a gateway to this transformation. For a four-year-old child, the incident of one of her toys breaking is woeful; while a 17-year old recognises that it’s just a toy and very replaceable. For that 17-year old, however, falling out of favour with his girlfriend can be devastating – while parents can clearly relate to it as just a passing phase. 
   As we grow in our level of consciousness and overcome our ignorant beliefs, we can relate to the same events from a higher ground and find greater peace. Higher awareness of our spiritual being aids us in dealing with our physical suffering; grasping the meaning of death facilitates living a meaningful life; and understanding the laws of nature helps us not take every untoward event personally. Every setback then is not a new source of suffering, but merely a reminder of the lessons we need to learn in our 
   eternal journey of evolution. 
   Finally, cultivating compassion dulls the sharpness of the painful experience. Such compassion necessitates being less judgmental, more empathetic, more forgiving and less of a perfectionist. If we can avoid judging ourselves and instead learn to be more accepting of ourselves as we are, we feel less anxious; being compassionate towards others, and empathising with their unique context, reduces our level of frustration, blame and anger. 
   Sufi mystic Rumi said, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” Instead of perceiving ourselves and others as imperfect, relating to everyone as unique creations of a perfect universe allows us to be more at peace with our reality. Further, choosing to help others who may be suffering from similar circumstances supports this inner transformation.